Weeks old: 7
I like: Mummy’s terrible singing, boobs, white noise, staring at things no one else can see
Mummy is learning: To make up her own songs. “Have you done a poop?” being a popular hit
When you have a tiny baby there is a series of questions everyone asks you. I think pre-baby I might have asked some of these questions myself. So I am going to let you in on a secret, no one wants to be asked these questions unless it’s by another mum, in the same boat who is genuinely offering you a venting space. Here are my answers so we can all just move on.
Is he a good baby? What does this even mean? He’s seven weeks old. He has no concept of good and bad. All babies are “good” essentially. To be fair only people over fifty have asked me this but does anyone genuinely think I would describe my baby as “bad”?
How is he sleeping? The world’s most loaded question. He has a teeny tiny tummy so he gets hungry which means he wakes up in the night. He also still has no concept of day or night so he doesn’t really get sleeping all night. Oh… and he gets lonesome so he sleeps in bed with us. This is where the advice is unleashed, the best advice coming of course from people who don’t have children. I am fine with how my baby sleeps and consequently how I sleep. I’m not sure what people think you’re going to answer when they ask this question or why they’re so concerned when there’s not really any way they can get involved. Same goes for asking every day, “so how was last night”? It was fine. I am fine. I promise if I want sleep advice I will ask.
When are you going to give him a bottle? I don’t know. Maybe never. We tried once and he didn’t like it at all. We probably will try again but he’s very happy on the boob and I am very happy feeding him. It would be nice to leave him for slightly longer but there’s a part of me that doesn’t want to force something on him if there is no need other than my convenience. (Absolutely no judgement on anyone’s feeding choices whatever they are and for whatever reason. Fed baby is fed baby.)
Will you have another one? I have no idea. Possibly. I am not even sure if we can have another one. This one wasn’t that easy. Maybe we don’t want to. Maybe our minds will change a hundred times before we make a final decision but ultimately this one is less than two months old. Let’s just give my baby making areas a little break, mmkay?
Is he in a routine? I am not sure why everyone is obsessed with everyone else’s baby’s routine. He has some sort of predictable patterns but at seven weeks trying to wrangle a baby into a routine seems like trying to teach a slug to dance – a recipe for disappointment and frustration.When I say no I often get people telling me I really must get him into one. I’ll be sure to tell him that.
Questions I would much rather you asked me:
- Who do you think he looks like?
- What cute things is he doing at the moment?
- What does he like doing?
- Can I have a cuddle?