And so the next journey begins…

A few months ago I wrote a post about my health and weight loss journey that was really popular. What I didn’t mention at the time was that there was a really compelling reason that I decided to embark on the transformation in the first place.

You see Mr O and I have been trying to spawn a little O for almost three years. Eventually earlier this year we decided to seek medical help to find out if there was a reason that we hadn’t managed to get it right. It’s quite a long and complicated process but one of the very first things the consultant I saw said to me was, “you need to lose weight.” Being overweight is not something that will stop you from getting pregnant (in case anyone is planning on claiming that I suggested this as a form of birth control) but it doesn’t help.

I had already stopped drinking and indulging in the occasional social cigarette but I decided that halfway wasn’t good enough. When it comes to fertility there are so many things you can’t control so taking control of the things you can is really empowering and motivating. I had five months before my next appointment so I put all of my focus into bringing down my weight in a healthy and sustainable way.

I am not going to suggest that losing weight will get you pregnant either but I have done some retrospective mathematics and within 3 days of hitting my goal weight I was, completely naturally. It might be a coincidence. It might not be. Anyway I was fortunate enough to find out just before the invasive fertility investigations started (if anyone wants more details on what that means, let me know… but it ain’t pretty).

The major upside is that a pregnancy that starts at a healthy weight is considerably less risky than one that starts at the weight I was.

As of yesterday Baby O is officially 12 weeks in utero and doing very well. The picture at the top of this blog was taken during our recent scan where he/she was so hyperactive that the sonographer was having trouble measuring him/her. Apparently this is a very good sign. We also saw a strong heart beat and the risk of any abnormalities is extremely low. Especially good to hear for a mom to be that’s over thirty-five!

Essentially Mr O and my lives are about to change completely and irrevocably as we embark on what will be the most intense journey of our lives. We are a heady combination of excited, ecstatic, relieved and absolutely terrified… and because I am me I will be blogging throughout. So from later this week on I’ll be doing a weekly “Bump Chronicles” post about the trials and tribulations of being pregnant.

Hopefully this will clarify why I have been feeling sick, tired and emotional recently, all of which is worth it of course. I wanted to say a special thank you to everyone who reads my blog and who took the time to message me, call me, comment, etc to check if I was okay. It meant the absolutely world to me. I am sorry if I couldn’t be completely clear with everyone about what was going on but the first trimester is particularly volatile and so keeping things under wraps is wise.

I also wanted to thank Mr O for putting up with some of my more unusual behaviour over the past three months… hormones are… special. I love you future dad!

56 Comments

  1. Congratulations, I am so happy for you.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

      1. I’m over the moon for you.

  2. YAY YAY YAY!!!!!!!!!! I dont know why but I have been expecting this news from you!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Lots of people had suspicions based on all my recent cryptic grumbling about my symptoms. Lol!

  3. Totally knew from the time you posted that super-happy selfie then said you couldn’t tell us why. 😉 Fucking fantastic news darling, and ‘gratz to you both. Couldn’t be more thrilled for you! 😄xxx

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! It was hard to keep it quiet because of the excitement levels. It’s nice to be able to share the news now 😊

  4. Congratulations! It certainly is a very big adventure. 🙂

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  5. Amazing news Hun, massive congrats and sending lots of love! Xxx

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you so much! 😙

  6. Oh, lovely! Congratulations you two/three. 🙂

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  7. Baby O in utero has a lovely ring to it. My blessings and well wishes!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! You were right by the way when you commented on my selfie post all those weeks ago. I had just had a positive test.

      1. 🙂 I am a mother of three and my intuition was kicking in, I reckon. Regardless, I’m very happy for you. Children are fun and exasperating and will claim all of your heart and emotions. It’s a grand chapter of your life, enjoy!

  8. Nikki Wates

    Wow, Abbi! Even though i don’t comment much, I read all your posts and love your way with words. Cant wait to read the Bump Cronicles. Wishing you a hassle free 2nd and 3rd trimester. You are goign to be a fantastic mum.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you so much! Bump chronicles should be starting on Wednesday if all goes according to plan. The first trimester has been… tumultuous so I’m hoping that things will calm down a bit. All so worth it though!

  9. Congratulations! I’m so happy for you 😀

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  10. Congratulations – so very exciting!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! I am using you as my inspiration for a fit pregnancy!

  11. GaryGreg828

    Congrats Abbi! That is awesome! (sorry i didn’t check on your well-being before. I didn’t see any of your posts where you mentioned anything being wrong.) Do you prefer boy or girl? There’s such a different dynamic from having a boy or girl, but they are equally great.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! And that’s absolutely fine! It was just a couple of comments on my selfie posts that I was feeling emotional. People who know me really well know that that’s rare for me so I got a few texts of concern. I am quite keen for a boy but Mr O really wants a girl. Really we’d be so blessed by either.

      1. GaryGreg828

        Yeah, it’s really a win/win. Are you going to learn the gender before or let it be a surprise? It’d be great to wait for the surprise, but on the other side it’d be good to know ahead of time to start preparing for whichever gender.

        1. abbiosbiston

          I’m up for a surprise but Mr O wants to know precisely for the preparation element especially since we are able to use a lot of equipment from his cousin’s little girl that they are ready to pass on. Some of it is bright pink so if it is a boy then we might get a few bits new. The scan where they can tell the gender is in February so we have till then to decide.

          1. GaryGreg828

            oh ok, that sounds good. Do you already have names picked out – or deciding?

            1. abbiosbiston

              We have a girl’s name but boy’s names are a contentious issue…

  12. Congrats! Here’s to not sleeping well for the next… 20 or so years.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Or according to both my mother and my mother-in-law ever again.

  13. Totally guessed it and I’m so happy for you! Congratulations!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  14. Wow, wow, wow, how exciting! Congratulations to you both, I can’t wait to read your Bump Chronicles! I think you two are going to such fun parents. I love your posts where you go to somewhere like Madame Tussauds and act like big kids lol I hope you have a less traumatic second and third trimester and I can’t wait to see pictures of Baby O once they’re born 🙂 xxx

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! I hope we’re going to find the balance between fun and discipline. 😊

  15. Waaaah amazing! Congrats Abbi and Mr O! This is so exciting! 😀

    1. abbiosbiston

      Believe it or not I had just found out on the morning of the day I came to meet you and I was reeling from the news. I hope I was acceptable company because my mind was all over the place.

      1. That is so funny, what a coincidence! You were more than acceptable company and not scatterbrained in the least. However I can see how your mind may have been going a mile a minute with such amazing news!

  16. Congratulations! If I may offer some parenting advice:
    1. Don’t get them wet.
    2. Keep them out of sunlight.
    3. Don’t feed them after midnight.

    1. abbiosbiston

      That’s just good life advice!

  17. The things I miss when it’s crazy at work–congrats to you two!!

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  18. Teehee. I kind of had my suspicions on the weight loss! Good on’ya guys.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! It was a great motivator!

  19. congrats to both of u! I cant explain why, but I’m not surprised and had suspicions, but it’s still great to hear that all is well!

    Enjoy the journey of parenthood and try to remember that ur free days and nights are all but gone (this is a good thing).

    Life will never be the same again…and thats the way it should be!

    1. abbiosbiston

      I think I dropped quite a lot of hints in my selfie posts talking about not feeling well and about being on a bit of an emotional roller coaster. The way my parent friends have been describing it to me I feel like I will be lucky if I get to take a shower in the first five years of my child’s life.

      1. U will. Just have mr. O. On call 😉

  20. MIB

    Aww congrats to you both! 🙂

    At least we know that the kid will have a fairly decent taste in films! 😛

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! I hope to expose Little O to plenty of Studio Ghibli and not too much Disney.

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you!

  21. Theo

    I’m beyond excited for the new chapter of your life Abbi! 🙂 Congratulations to you and Mr O for embarking on one of the most exciting journeys ahead…! I wish you all the best for 2016 and a Merry Christmas! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you! All the best to you too!

  22. I am absolutely thrilled and totally delighted for you – you will both make such awesome parents!! Smiling, smiling and smiling some more!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    1. abbiosbiston

      Thank you so much! Starting to get really excited now! XX

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